Mediums Miss Their Loved One's Too!

I've been a Medium almost my entire life. I didn't understand it much when I was younger and most of the time, was fearful of the spirits that would visit me. As I grew older though, I learned more about my gifts and how to use them towards helping others to reconnect with loved ones that they have lost to death and receive messages of love and comfort from them. It truly is an honor and privilege to be a part of that process for people. I wouldn't change it for the world.

In January of 2016, my mother passed away after a long battle with cancer. It came as a shock to our entire family as she had been finally cleared of the cancer and was looking forward to a long-awaited kidney transplant that would finally put her heath issues in check. Unfortunately, during a routine check-up with her doctor, it was discovered that the cancer had returned. A couple of months later, she lost that battle and we were faced with the unfathomable task of coming to terms of a life without her in it. I tell you this story, not so that you will feel bad for me and my family, but instead to set the stage for you. So that you may better understand the gift of Mediumship, how it works and how it doesn't.

Picture of my Mom - Nancy

When my Mother died, some of the comments that would accompany condolences sent my way, were almost too much for me to process. I would hear things like "I'm sorry for your loss, but at least you can still talk to her as often as you'd like" or "Your family must be devastated. I'm sure you are ok though, since it must not feel like she's gone to you." These weren't the exact words used, but just examples to give you an idea of the mindset towards me.  And then there were those who didn't say much of anything, but instead acted as if nothing had happened to me at all. As if the loss never occurred.

It was a tough time for me and I didn't really have many people to turn to as I mourned the loss of my mother… my best friend. I got through it though….as many might have assumed to begin with. How could I not have – I mean, seriously, I get how it works right?

The thing is – being a Medium does not mean that you are granted an all access pass to the other side. In fact, the "other-side" is who really controls what comes through for who. If you've ever been to a Medium before, you know what I mean. You may have gone with the notion in your mind that if brother Billy is really coming through to me – he will say this (yet he didn't) Or even go so far as to ask the medium to give you a clear and definite sign that the person they are talking to is really their loved one (and they couldn't). My all-time favorite is the person who asks…" what does <my deceased loved one> have to say about it? (and they say nothing).

Mediumship doesn't always work that way though. It is far more delicate and complex. I wish it were as easy as dialing up a phone number and instantly connecting to the other side!

When messages from deceased loved one's come to me, it is imperative that the person I am reading for gives some sort of confirmation or acknowledgement that the person I am connected to is in fact their loved one. This is not an attempt on my part to fish for information, but instead a simple way to strengthen the connection with the energy of the deceased person that I am communicating with.

For example; When a spirit first comes forward, they will show me (or tell me) something personal between them and a loved one. Perhaps a phrase that they used often, a pastime that they enjoyed, or a memory that is special to them. When the person I am reading for confirms with a "YES – my mother used to say that all the time!" or "That is correct, she was a short woman with fiery red hair", the spirit moves closer to me and from there, messages come flooding in. This process is extremely difficult for me to achieve when it comes to connecting with my own loved ones. Mainly because I am left with needing to confirm my own visions (or internal messages) with myself. When my own loved one's attempt to connect, I may receive similar images and yes, they are spot on…BUT the question I will ask myself is, "is this really them…or my imagination?" without an outside confirmation, the internal connection is oftentimes lost.

Are there Mediums out there who can successfully connect and communicate with their own deceased loved ones? I'm sure there are! But I'm also sure that they would still appreciate a good session with another Medium, so that they can receive messages that are free of their own inner dialog!

The point of my post is simple. We (Mediums) grieve that same way that you do. We miss our loved ones that have died as much as you do and we long to talk to, hug and communicate with them just the same. When we lose someone we love, it may be more difficult for us to find the comfort from others that is such an integral part of the grieving process, simply because of the stereotypes that surround the nature of our gifts.

If you come across a Medium (or anyone for that matter) who has recently lost someone they love to death, I encourage you to give them a hug and simply tell them that you are sorry for their loss and will be there for them if they need you.

The love and comfort of our friends and family during difficult times, is sometimes all it takes to lead us back to being active participants in life!

Namaste'

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Article written by: Top Advisor Michelle

The Ultimate Psychic Reading Checklist. (& some cool tips to getting a great reading)

THE ULTIMATE PSYCHIC READING CHECKLIST

I hear it time and time again from new customers coming to me for a reading after getting what they perceived to be a terrible read from the psychic before me. Although it is possible that the reader wasn't all that good to begin with, I'd be willing to bet that most likely, this wasn't the case at all.

Gone are the days of "Miss Cleo" style psychic readings, where you're not even sure that the person talking to you is legit. psychics on the web nowadays, have endured many years of earning their right to be there and those who can't cut the mustard, well...let's face it, they fall to the wayside long before any chances of victimizing some poor soul out of all their hard earned money.

So, if most of the psychics nowadays are legit, how do bad readings happen? 

Believe it or not, there are quite a few reasons for getting a bad reading and most of them do not have anything to do with the psychics ability to perform. 

Here is a list of my tops:

1. There just simply wasn't a connection: Just like real people in any business, Psychics can have "off"days, or even struggle to connect with an individual. When this happens for me, I tell the client straight away and either give them the option to reschedule with me, or if i feel the connection is just not there, I'll try and refer them to another psychic. For many of us, we want it so badly that we try and push something that's just not there. This can be the fault of the psychic or even the client in some cases.
2. Your seeing the wrong psychic for your needs: This is a more common reason that a reading might go bad - quickly. For example; You are not going to get great intuitive advice about your business endeavors from a psychic who specializes in love/twin flame readings, or is a psychic medium. Before going to a psychic, be sure and do your homework! If a friend recommended them to you, ask for the psychics website, or link to their social pages and take the time to check them out fully! Reading the psychics reviews and blog will lend you a sneak peek at the types of reading available. If you are searching for a psychic advisor yourself, do your research and when your ready to schedule, schedule for 15 to 30 minutes to start. I assure you that it will be worth your effort!
3. Testing the psychic: This happens more often than you'd think. People who test psychics will immediately close off their energy at the beginning of a reading, usually tell the psychic that they do not have any specific questions, will not lend any feedback or energy for the reading and will most likely tell the psychic that they just would like to know "what they see" If you are the type to "test" your psychic readers abilities, you can expect to walk away with some amazing psychic insight, however will most likely not gain any insight into the specific reason you are there. The end result = bad...bad reading that will leave you feeling like you've wasted your money.
4. Not coming prepared: Let's face it, going to see a psychic will loads of experience and stellar reviews is going to dent your wallet a bit. So, why not go prepared so that you can get the most from your time together? All to many times, I find myself handing a client a pen and paper because they didn't think to bring a notebook, or receiving the famous "I forgot to ask when I was there" question. Being well prepared for your psychic reading, will not only save you money in the long run, it will also guarantee a great read - just about every time!

As promised, here is a checklist that you can use before, during and after any psychic reading!

GETTING A GREAT PSYCHIC READING CHECKLIST:

BEFORE THE READING

• Be sure this psychic is the right fit for my needs by checking out website, social pages, reviews. Does this psychic's area of expertise match what I am seeking guidance on?
• Clear your emotional energy as best you can before your scheduled reading. You can make this as simple or complex as you'd like - and can be accomplished by quietly meditating at home, taking a walk outside or taking a bath before the reading, just to name a few.
• Have a list of questions prepared beforehand. The list can be as detailed as you'd like or can be a quick list of keywords that remind you of what to ask about - The important thing is to make one and bring it with you to the reading.

DURING THE READING

• Let the psychic know what you are seeking guidance on. You do not have to provide a bunch of details on the subject, simply give the psychic an idea of what you'd like to accomplish during the session.
• Allow yourself to be open to receive whatever information comes through for you and write it down - Especially the information that doesn't quite jive with you or make sense at the time, as this is usually the most important. You can also help the flow of energy by refraining from crossing your arms, wrists or ankles during the reading. (yes, even a phone reading can be affected by crossing them!)
• Don't be afraid to give the psychic confirmation that the information they are giving you is real. Practicing the simple act of saying "yes, that makes sense to me" or Yes, that's accurate", will open up the psychic channel even more for them and you will get a stronger read form it.

AFTER THE READING

• Give the outcome time to catch up to the reading. This takes patience on your part and involves you refraining from asking the same question again, or before it's had a chance to come to fruition. When you trust in the process and try not to interfere with the outcome - you'll find your readings to be spot on!

Above all, the best advice I can give towards getting a great psychic reading every time, is to keep an open mind and remember that psychics are not magical beings that know everything, they are simply people just like you who happen to have a unique skill. 

I'd live to hear about your good/bad psychic reading experiences! If you'd like to share them with me, you can post them in the comments area below!

Be Well!

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Michelle brings more than 30 years’ experience helping others with psychic guidance. Her biggest reward comes from helping those who have lost loved ones and to help facilitate healing through connecting with them on a soul level.

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